I was first approached by Glenn as he wanted to do something special for Kelly. Life had been busy for them both he wanted to make sure Kelly knew what she meant to him. After 15 years of marriage it was time to renew this lovely couples' wedding vows.
We had a wonderful session where I heard their love story and all about their journey. Glenn set about making arrangements for possible ideas for their Vow Renewal Day. He was going to present the idea to Kelly for a surprise and show with his ideas, contacts and details. This way she wouldn't feel their were lots of things to organise for their special day from scratch.
For Christmas he presented her his "gift" She was thrilled. What a fabulous present. This gave her enough time to buy and organise all the things she wanted for her self for her "Vow Renewal Day" for the middle of January. We meet up and confirm the details and the ceremony plan. I sent thought the bespoke ceremony I had scripted. They were thrilled. We were all set.
Their Saturday started with showers, that teased us on and off during the morning. By lunchtime the skies had cleared to reveal a beautiful, bright sun with fluffy white clouds.
This loving couple had set their wedding ceremony scene on top of the Caroline Bay Lookout. This lookout gave us glorious views of the Pacific Ocean, the Southern Alps Mountain Range, Timaru township, the penguin colony and our working Port. The workings at the port seem to cease during the ceremony so the sounds of seagulls and waves became our background music.
"Let's write our own vows!"
It seemed like such a good idea at the time ... but as you sit down at your laptop you don't know where to start. You google "How to write your own vows" but there is so many articles offering tips it can feel pretty over whelming.
So, how do you get the words out that describe the feelings in your heart?
My words of advise - Keep it Simple and talk to your celebrant if you are feeling stressed, overwhelmed or confused about where to start. This is a joyous time and your celebrant is their to support you both. I offer to assist one or both in writing their vows if needed. I also ask that they be sent to me and I have a copy that I print off. You can read your vows from "upside down view" from your celebrants' folder or have your own cards. I check that they are roughly the same length and they tone is the same. These words are precious as they are straight from the couples heart.
These are the guidelines I ask my couples to consider.
Your celebrant is there to support you. You are not in this alone, this is one of the most special days in your life. If you decide it is all too much your celebrant can write your vows and say them. The only speaking you have to legally say in New Zealand is "I (your name) take you ( their name) to be my legally wedded husband/wife/partner" ( or words to that affect).
Relax and enjoy this wonderful time.
If you want to share some inspiration to other couples feel free to comment below. We would love to hear from you.