It's often a funny part in the movie.
The couple have just said their vows and the officiant asks for the rings. The best man pats down his suit, looks shocked and confused when he realises he doesn't have them. Everyone scurries around looking until a substitute (like a coke can tab or cheezel) is found last minute to replace the ring. Everyone is received and go on to live happily ever after.
Yes, it is funny losing a wedding ring in a movie but not so in real life. Looking after wedding rings, until the moment you cement your vows with a ring, is a big responsibility. It can cause some couples to worry about what they should do. They ask what is the correct way and what do other people do?
Q: Who should look after your rings?
A: Anyone you wish too!
Finding the right celebrant is like finding the perfect pair of shoes!
First you have to think about what you want. You want a pair of shoes that are going to fit with what your need them for. Think about it - you are heading for a night of dancing. Are you going to squeeze your foot into a gorgeous pair of shoes two sizes too small for you? Or wear a size to big? Of course not! You will end up with blisters and pinched feet or feeling not supported and unstable.
Celebrants are like shoes - one size does NOT fit all and the quality and type vary. Some shoes are so popular they are snapped up as soon as they are on display. The same goes for popular celebrants in peak wedding season. You should book the venue, food, photographer and celebrant all at the same time as early as you can so you get the best possible choice.
First you need to think about the style that you want. It is no point choosing a celebrant that reminds you of your mean scout leader or looks like your fiancees' ex girlfriend. Look on their website and facebook business page. Scroll through the photos of them. Do you feel comfortable with them? Do they look positive and happy? Do they fit with you and your fiancee? Are they portraying themselves as outgoing and vibrant or more reserved and quiet? Find a celebrant that fits YOUR personality. They will be in your wedding photos forever and on your video if you have one.
Your celebrant should be welcoming, adaptable and easy to talk to. On your big day it is them running the ceremony. They will be making sure it is all set up as planned, they will be helping to keep your nervousness at bay and delivering an amazing ceremony for you and your guests.
Don't be afraid to shop around and connect with a few (or lots of celebrants) Find one that you both fit with, they you have confidence in. Even if you have been married seven times or this is your first - it is your special day. You need someone that has your back and that has you and your ceremony as their priority.
Good luck and happy planning!
"Let's write our own vows!"
It seemed like such a good idea at the time ... but as you sit down at your laptop you don't know where to start. You google "How to write your own vows" but there is so many articles offering tips it can feel pretty over whelming.
So, how do you get the words out that describe the feelings in your heart?
My words of advise - Keep it Simple and talk to your celebrant if you are feeling stressed, overwhelmed or confused about where to start. This is a joyous time and your celebrant is their to support you both. I offer to assist one or both in writing their vows if needed. I also ask that they be sent to me and I have a copy that I print off. You can read your vows from "upside down view" from your celebrants' folder or have your own cards. I check that they are roughly the same length and they tone is the same. These words are precious as they are straight from the couples heart.
These are the guidelines I ask my couples to consider.
Your celebrant is there to support you. You are not in this alone, this is one of the most special days in your life. If you decide it is all too much your celebrant can write your vows and say them. The only speaking you have to legally say in New Zealand is "I (your name) take you ( their name) to be my legally wedded husband/wife/partner" ( or words to that affect).
Relax and enjoy this wonderful time.
If you want to share some inspiration to other couples feel free to comment below. We would love to hear from you.