DC South Canterbury: Encouraging Conversations About Death And Dying

Jade Whaley introduced Death Cafe Timaru to the people of South Canterbury in July 2021

A Safe Space to Discuss Life and Loss. Death is a topic that often feels taboo, but it's an inevitable part of life that everyone will face. If you've ever wanted to explore the subject in a safe and open environment, join us. 

Everything You Need to Know About Timaru Death Cafe in South Canterbury.

What is a death cafe?
A Death Cafe is a unique gathering where people talk about death, dying, and everything in between. It's not as morbid as it might sound at first! In fact, these meetings are designed to create a comfortable space where individuals can share their thoughts, fears, and experiences related to mortality, all while enjoying a cup of tea or coffee and perhaps a slice of cake.

The idea originated in Europe and has spread globally, reflecting a growing desire to address the subject of death openly and honestly. At a Death Cafe, there are no agendas or set topics; instead, participants guide the conversation, allowing for organic and meaningful discussions.

Why Attend a Death Cafe?
Attending a Death Cafe can be a deeply enriching experience for several reasons:

• Normalising Conversations About Death: Talking about death can help reduce fear and anxiety surrounding it. By discussing it openly, you can gain a greater understanding and acceptance of life's natural cycles.
• Finding Community: Sharing experiences and thoughts with others who are also interested in the topic can create a sense of community and connection. You may discover that your feelings and fears are more common than you realise.
• Gaining Perspective: Conversations at a Death Cafe can provide valuable insights and perspectives on life, encouraging you to live more fully and appreciate the present moment.​

22 people attended the first Timaru Death Cafe that was hosted in July 2021 at Aoraki Funeral Services.

Death Cafe South Canterbury 
We encourages conversations about death and dying in a safe, confidential, and hosted space. Join our group-directed discussion to share your experiences, thoughts, and views.

Our first meeting was back in July 2021 and was a wonderful success. We have had between 8 to 32 participants. We have now moved to Timaru District Library for our Sunday meetings. 

I believe providing opportunities for people from all backgrounds, beliefs, and cultures to talk and share experiences about dying, death, and grief is essential. Raising awareness of death can lead to a more fulfilling life.

Death Cafes have been taking place in New Zealand for over ten years. Discussing death and dying is necessary because death will affect us all at some point. 

What Happens at Our Meetings:
We sit in small groups or at a large table and have leading questions. Everyone is encouraged to share their thoughts, and a facilitator is present to ensure everyone is heard and supported.

When our members of South Canterbury Death Cafe discuss their fears, experiences, and beliefs, they inspire each other and experience support, relief, and peace of mind. They learn about different backgrounds and are equipped to support those with different experiences.

Talking about our experiences allows us to be present for others going through difficult times and open ourselves to new ideas. It also promotes our health, well-being, and quality of life.

There is no set agenda for Death Cafe meetings. What happens depends on those who attend, as it is a group-led conversation. These meetings are confidential 

They typically last one and a half hours. There is no charge

IMPORTANT: it is  not a place for counselling or for those who are grieving.

Final Thoughts
Death Cafes offer a unique opportunity to explore a topic that is often avoided but is central to the human experience. By creating a space where people can talk openly about death, we can better understand and accept it as part of life's journey. Whether you're looking to confront your fears, gain new perspectives, or connect with others who share your interests, a Death Cafe can be a transformative experience.

So, why not take a seat at the table, open your heart and mind, and join the conversation about life's ultimate mystery?

Please book your place at our next meeting as we are limited to 25.
We now have numerous facilitatorss  to support our South Canterbury meetings.

Would you like to join us? 
Get in contact and I will notify you of our next date. 
Love, Jade x

Jade Whaley founder and host of Timaru Death Cafe - July 2021. A celebratory chocolate cake to mark our first meeting.