The story of Ben and Mhairi's Scottish Wedding with a hand fasting, Kingsdown Manor, Timaru Kingsdown Manor and Chapel Centre was the perfect location for Ben and Mhairi's Scottish themed wedding. In keeping with their heritage, a hand fasting enactment was included after the exchange of rings.
Their whole family was involved in including Toby, their much loved fur baby. The day began with a little drizzle which stopped an hour before the wedding and the sky was perfect for the photos. Brad Reeve Photography captured their special moments for their wedding day.
Mhairi and Ben had a personalised ceremony that captured their essence and their love story. They wrote their own vows which were very moving.
Their ceremony had some very special enactments. A beautiful reading from a dear friend, a talented musician on keyboard for their signing and a traditional Scottish hand fasting. Their hand fasting cord was made with eight metres of fabric in their family colours. It was adorned with special charms which represented different elements in their life. Their were 12 guests invited to come up in pairs and and tie their hands during the ceremony. Afterwards the cords were gently removed and are kept as a reminder of their wedding day. The ceremony was very special having many involved. The ceremony and whole day flowed beautifully.
Congratulations Mr and Mrs Fraser.
It was an absolute pleasure getting to know you and your family.
I wish you a long and happy life filled with love, laughter and lots of happy memory, making moments.
The story of Kyle & Tiffanie's Beach Wedding by the Penguin Colony, Caroline Bay, Timaru
The weather during the day had been terrible with gale force winds and the threat of rain looming. Most of NZ had been hit by the tail end of a cyclone but the sun gods shone bright for Kyle and Tiffanies 6:00pm wedding. A bit of wind still whipped through but it was a hundred times better than it had been hours before.
A simple but lovely set up brought in the colours black, white, red and blue for their beach wedding. A carved love heart and signing table was created for our ceremonial space.
Tiffanie looked gorgeous. Her gown was brought local and she sewed her own jewels on to personalise her beautiful gown. Her bridal nails and veil brought this together with fabulous pops of red in her bouquet.
Waiting with the groom and groomsmen on the beach front, family and friends from around New Zealand taking in the views, this setting really was special alongside the penguin colony.
Their ceremony on the beach, sun shining down and loved ones around, created an intimate and personal wedding for Kyle and Tiffanie.
There were a few beachgoers that stood and watched and smiled from afar but Kyle and Tiffanie were unaware. They only had eyes for each other. Their heartfelt, handwritten original wedding vows brought a tear to many of the guests
The day of time, the setting and the space the couple created was just lovely. The couple celebrated afterwards with their friends and family at the yacht club that overlooks the bay. This was just a short walk from where they got married, making it easy for the guests to move from one place to another. They had a fantastic evening and celebrated into the night.
Congratulations Mr and Mrs Rule. Enjoy your new chapter. It was great to get to know you both and I wish you both a lifetime of love and happiness.
Their Saturday started with showers, that teased us on and off during the morning. By lunchtime the skies had cleared to reveal a beautiful, bright sun with fluffy white clouds.
This loving couple had set their wedding ceremony scene on top of the Caroline Bay Lookout. This lookout gave us glorious views of the Pacific Ocean, the Southern Alps Mountain Range, Timaru township, the penguin colony and our working Port. The workings at the port seem to cease during the ceremony so the sounds of seagulls and waves became our background music.
We had a small intimate gathering of close family and friends, some who had travelled to join Kerry and Lis, on their very special day. Their ceremony was filled with love and emotion. I must admit, I had a lump in my throat which I somehow managed to swallow down, and continue to read their ceremony with no one the wiser. Thankfully, I had read their ceremony numerous times for preparation, I could still remember the words even when a tear threatened to fill my eye and blur my vision.
Kerry and Lis and been a couple since 1998 and had two teenage boys who were very much a part of their ceremony. This wonderful family have such a strong bond and their boys were right by their side. Their love and support for each other was so strong that it will be a fond memory and feeling I will remember for a very long time.
Lis and Kerry - I wish you a lifetime that will continue to be filled with love, happiness and many, many moments of joy.
Finding the right celebrant is like finding the perfect pair of shoes!
First you have to think about what you want. You want a pair of shoes that are going to fit with what your need them for. Think about it - you are heading for a night of dancing. Are you going to squeeze your foot into a gorgeous pair of shoes two sizes too small for you? Or wear a size to big? Of course not! You will end up with blisters and pinched feet or feeling not supported and unstable.
Celebrants are like shoes - one size does NOT fit all and the quality and type vary. Some shoes are so popular they are snapped up as soon as they are on display. The same goes for popular celebrants in peak wedding season. You should book the venue, food, photographer and celebrant all at the same time as early as you can so you get the best possible choice.
First you need to think about the style that you want. It is no point choosing a celebrant that reminds you of your mean scout leader or looks like your fiancees' ex girlfriend. Look on their website and facebook business page. Scroll through the photos of them. Do you feel comfortable with them? Do they look positive and happy? Do they fit with you and your fiancee? Are they portraying themselves as outgoing and vibrant or more reserved and quiet? Find a celebrant that fits YOUR personality. They will be in your wedding photos forever and on your video if you have one.
Your celebrant should be welcoming, adaptable and easy to talk to. On your big day it is them running the ceremony. They will be making sure it is all set up as planned, they will be helping to keep your nervousness at bay and delivering an amazing ceremony for you and your guests.
Don't be afraid to shop around and connect with a few (or lots of celebrants) Find one that you both fit with, they you have confidence in. Even if you have been married seven times or this is your first - it is your special day. You need someone that has your back and that has you and your ceremony as their priority.
Good luck and happy planning!
"Let's write our own vows!"
It seemed like such a good idea at the time ... but as you sit down at your laptop you don't know where to start. You google "How to write your own vows" but there is so many articles offering tips it can feel pretty over whelming.
So, how do you get the words out that describe the feelings in your heart?
My words of advise - Keep it Simple and talk to your celebrant if you are feeling stressed, overwhelmed or confused about where to start. This is a joyous time and your celebrant is their to support you both. I offer to assist one or both in writing their vows if needed. I also ask that they be sent to me and I have a copy that I print off. You can read your vows from "upside down view" from your celebrants' folder or have your own cards. I check that they are roughly the same length and they tone is the same. These words are precious as they are straight from the couples heart.
These are the guidelines I ask my couples to consider.
Your celebrant is there to support you. You are not in this alone, this is one of the most special days in your life. If you decide it is all too much your celebrant can write your vows and say them. The only speaking you have to legally say in New Zealand is "I (your name) take you ( their name) to be my legally wedded husband/wife/partner" ( or words to that affect).
Relax and enjoy this wonderful time.
If you want to share some inspiration to other couples feel free to comment below. We would love to hear from you.
Wedding dresses have changed through the last century. I found this on you tube and thought you might enjoy this.
Being a pet owner isn't just "owning a pet". Animals can become part of the family and in some circumstances are the only "family" some of us have.
Sometimes the death of a much loved animal can have such a devastating impact that can affect our daily functioning.
The loss of an animal should not be dismissed as not important. It can impact same of us the same as a losing a loved one who is human. Saying to someone "It's only a cat or dog, never mind - you'll get over it. you can buy another one" is not what you say to a person grieving the loss of their beloved fur baby. The impact can be huge. Sleep deprivation, guilt, loneliness and an ache that feels like it will never go away.
I had two wonderful cats, Molly and Tommy. Molly was 15 and Tommy (pictured ) was almost 17 when they passed. They were brother and sister ( twins I called them) I had my cats before my children and they were very much part of our family. I remember saying to people BEFORE I got them "My cats won't be in on the furniture they can stay in their basket if they are inside." Reality - "ohh its cold outside, I will turn on my electric blanket on my bed so they can sleep on my full, soft duvet with heat coming through"
The loss of Molly and Tommy was awful. It was a pain in my heart that non-pet owners will never feel. I had to have both my fur-babies put down as their health was deteriorating and guilt stayed with me for a long time.
One of the things that did aid in the start of our healing and acceptance that they were gone, was a "Pet Ceremony"
This may involve a funeral (where you are burying your pet) or memorial (your pet may have already been cremated or you do not have your pet there)
Having a beautiful ceremony where you share your stories is very healing. You are not only honouring your pet you are honouring the feelings that you may be feeling. It can give you a chance to start your grieving process. You are allowed to cry at a funeral or memorial!
There are many things you can do to symbolise your "headstone" for your pet. Painting a stone, planting a tree, shrub or rose or building something special in your garden, are only a few ideas. A painted stone or rock is a good option for children as they can actually bring their rock or stone inside to have their "pet" near them. It is also good if you move as you can easily take that with you. Do what ever you need to for YOU.
Ideas to consider:
Your pet is an important part of your life.
Honour them. Remember them. Celebrate them